2015 was for all intents and purposes, the most “successful” year of my life. Which is pretty awesome and pretty sad at the same time. I feel like it took me a long time. Lots of trial and error. Lots of failures. Lots of screw ups. Next month, I’ll be 35 and I wonder why it took me so damn long to get my shit together.

My mother even asked me the other day if the well had run dry yet. That kind of pissed me off.

My family- the people closest to me- even still doubt me. Even though I was able to create a multi-six figure business, even though I was featured in Forbes and Business Insider, even though I am a best selling author. They still don’t believe in me. Pretty sad, huh?

You see, true success is subjective. Some people want to make millions, some people just want to be debt free and comfortable, some people want to feel healthy, happy and at peace in their bodies, some people just want amazing relationships and balance.

Success for me is pretty simple. It means living life on my terms and not giving a crap about what anyone thinks about me.

But sometimes I waver. Sometimes I go back and forth. Some days I have moments of doubt or comparison.

I’m thrown into situations and events where I’m not longer the smartest person in the room. And while I know this is a good thing, it’s still not the easiest thing. Growth and expansion are never easy. That’s why most people don’t do it.

The truth is: I still have ups and downs. I’ve battled depression since I was young. It wasn’t directly related to any event in my life, it wasn’t an emotional thing (so say that doctors), it was literally and imbalance in my hormones that caused me to have these waves of good and bad.

I thought it was just me. I thought it was something out of my control. I thought it was something I just had to live with. So I did. For a long time.

But that all changed when I uncovered my true desires. What I really wanted (not what everyone else wanted for me).

For over 30 years, I let other people make decisions for me in life. And I was okay with that. Because I thought that was normal. That’s what I was taught.

It wasn’t until I hit rock bottom three years ago that I started seeing things differently.

My life completely changes and my business exploded when I became focused. But more importantly, when I became decisive.

I decided to live my life intentional. I decided that things were going to be the way that I wanted them to be. I decided that I was going to invest in myself come hell or high water and nothing was going to stop me.

I made the decision to be successful. I made the decision to forego the norm in pursuit of my dreams. I made the decision to be okay with being hated as long as I was able to transform the lives of women who needed me.

And there’s more of you out there and I’m here to tell you that true transformation is waiting on the other side of your decision.

And you don’t have to wait to hit rock bottom before you start making the changes you need to make.

Forget fear. Forget rationale. Forget your comfort zone. All that has done up until this point is gotten you where you are.

So if you’re ready to step up, step into something bigger, step up to a different level, then you have to make that decision…